It’s a conversation that too often gets overlooked – men’s mental health.

Sam Leal, has spent 25 years supporting families in Brazil and Australia, exploring why men struggle to open up and what can be done to change that.

When asked whether men find it harder to ask for help or to open up emotionally, Sam explained, “I think it’s a combination of both. Ask for help, it’s quite difficult for men because it puts them in a vulnerable position where they can be perceived as weak.”

He pointed to the pressure men face in society to always appear strong. “That expectation that society puts on them… even though there has been so many changes, men still withhold these thought processes. The man box in itself basically stigmatises men that show any kind of weakness.”

The Man Box

Sam described the “man box” as the unspoken rules placed on men: “Man is the provider, men need to be strong, men cannot show any weakness, or men need to be loud or aggressive.”

By contrast, he said, qualities like being honest, sensitive, and vulnerable are often looked down on for men. 

What is being manly is actually not what we thought it was a long time ago.

Safe Spaces For Men

Sam now runs groups on the Sunshine Coast to provide safe spaces where men can connect.

“It’s really rewarding just the fact that you can start a group and of course, you do have the confidentiality… men feel comfortable to talk about challenges they go through that they are not comfortable to speak with their closest friends.”

He explained that the groups are therapeutic, relational and educational. 

“Men can feel comfortable to be themselves, but also can have some support. And at the same time, they are able to support other men as well.”

Sharing Stories of Change

Sam shared about a man who had battled depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder for over 20 years. 

“He actually is the first time that he felt like for a month and a half that he’s not having any depression, no anxiety, no bipolar, and he’s not using medication. 

“So, it’s been a journey, of course, early stages, but so good to hear this feedback.”

Resources for Support

Sam encourages men to explore free resources online like Beyond Blue and Black Dog. 

“Looking after your mind is just as important as looking after your body. And if you or someone you know needs support, please reach out.”

Article supplied with thanks to Salt 106.5.

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